My Approach to Therapy
When I was in my twenties, I saw a psychotherapist who was silent like the Sphinx. Then another who listened, cared, and made a big difference in my life. I never forgot the second one, who showed me that therapy can actually work. In my practice, I listen, talk, am collaborative, and believe you’ll know in not too long if we’re on the right track.
There are as many approaches to therapy as there are therapists, and it’s important to find the one who will be a good fit for you.
I provide a safe space where you can talk freely and that in itself, getting things off one’s chest, can be curative. Then, there are other levels of how our conversation will lead to a deeper understanding of difficult psychological habits or patterns.
What's next? With all the talk that defines the process, I like to keep in mind that, as they say, life’s not a rehearsal—even if therapy often feels like one. In other words, our time together is geared toward your actual life becoming more the way you want it to be.
This is what makes the process interesting for most of the people I see in my office and, frankly, for me. I believe that my talent as a practitioner involves our working together so that you can transcend the obstacles that keep you from feeling more confident and satisfied in your everyday experience and relationships.
My approach is interactive psychodynamic, I avail myself of different modalities, and I have a strong spiritual perspective.
As for a philosophy, well, I believe we go back to the past to understand any patterns that may be holding you back in the present, but not to obsess on the past or to retraumatize; that our main task is the quality of your life in the here and now.
I treat a wide array of issues and please inquire if yours is not listed below. That said, some seem to recur:
Anxiety—which is energy, so always signals great potential when properly understood.
Family issues (including neglect, abuse, as well as childhood trauma and incest).
Relationships: whether regarding professional, friendships or love. More specifically, getting along with colleagues, issues with friends, and in your current relationship or marriage. How one interacts, including psychological attachment styles and obstacles to intimacy. Romantic self-esteem: fortifying a calm, centered core as you move through intimate relationships.
Career—I'm the author of two books on career, relationships and parents. I often help people navigate work-related issues, from the practical to the strategic. Also, for some, the question of finding meaning in life in non-work activities.
Bulimia and, again, a range of other issues.
The goal is working together, and finding greater satisfaction.
"The brain is wider than the sky."
Emily Dickinson (1830-1886)